How Numbers Help You Understand Your Child

Most of the articles I write pertain to you and the various areas of your life journey as an adult. Coming home from a volunteering session in our little granddaughter’s grade two class, I felt guided to show readers with children in their life how numbers can effect their social and academic success at school. (You will see the use of either pronoun, “him” or “her” below, in order to avoid writing “him/her”.)

First of all work out your child’s personal year. Add their month of birth, (7 for July, 3 for March etc.) to their day of birth, and then add 8 (2+0+1+5). On your child’s next birthday change the last number in the equation to 9.

Every number brings us both gifts and potential pitfalls. I have tried to explain both below:

1 This is the beginning of an entirely new cycle, and a milestone in your child’s life. The 1 represents mental energy. It may be easier for him to focus on school work although he may be impatient to get it done. In the classroom or on the playground he may feel excited and buoyant, or perhaps lonely, isolated, or misunderstood. You may find that he is highly competitive, and literally wants to be “Number One.” This is a great time to talk to him about the idea of “personal best” and encourage competition with himself. Encourage him to consider exciting new possibilities and use the phrase “What if…”

2 (or 11) This year your child can develop skills in collaboration, and is likely to enjoy helping the teacher. Having a “best friend” will be important to her. This is sensitive and emotional energy and if she is inclined to compare herself with others – as in “I’m not any good at reading, drawing, running etc. All the other kids are better than me” – help her to see that she is being too hard on herself and that she has some really great strengths too. Try not to overwhelm her with too many details or demands given at the same time, and be sure she gets to bed on time.

3 The emotional 3 energy represents the joyful, exuberant, curious, and yet vulnerable and at times insecure child. This can be a successful year, especially as far as his social life goes; and in school his creativity may shine in writing, art, or music. On the downside, he may be easily distracted and find it hard to pay attention to the teacher and the task. Popularity is very important to him and he may also be vulnerable to peer pressure.

4 This is an excellent year to encourage good work habits, routines, and organizational skills. Your child may feel more secure with her group of friends, and more serious about school work. It also tends to be a year for physical growth and strength. The energy is physical and it can be grounding and reassuring, especially if there has been some sort of upheaval in her life. She may be exploring her personal boundaries, (Is that a “keep out” sign on your door? J ), and if parents or authority figures push too hard they might see some rebellion.

5 This is the number of change such as a move, a new sibling, or a parental breakup. Your child will be meeting a lot of new people this year and before the year is over will likely have new interests and a new group of friends. Middle ground is rare in a 5 year. Depending on the subject, he will either feel bored and have trouble concentrating, or get very excited about learning something new. Encourage verbal and written expression of his thoughts and feelings. If ever a parent needs to listen it’s this year.

6 This can be a stable and grounded year for your child in terms of family life, social life, and school. You’ll notice increasing maturity and probably a desire to please at home and at school. She is open to taking on some age appropriate activities, and likes the idea of growing up. With a heightened social conscience, she is developing some convictions about what’s right and fair. There is a strong element of perfectionism. For many children this can mean applying lots of effort and doing an excellent job, although some may avoid assignments because of a fear of failure.

7 As with the 4, this is a great year to encourage good study habits, and as with the 6, it’s a time of maturity. For some children one particular subject sparks interest and growing curiosity. They may want to do a lot of reading or research in this area, and become your family’s resident “expert”. It can be a successful year at school but a potentially awkward year in their social life. The lesson with 7 is to learn to be alone without being lonely; but it will be important for parents to make sure the child is not too withdrawn or secretive.

8 (or 22) This is a time of emergence. With the right support from home and school your child can gain confidence and make significant progress. It’s always good to talk to him about the future, help him to see the big picture and believe in his worthiness to set goals and “go for it”. The 8 energy reinforces this kind of possibility thinking. Children who are athletic will do well in competitions, and those who have innate leadership abilities will receive opportunities to develop their skills.

9 (or 33) You may be surprised with your child’s grasp of complex ideas. She may be curious about the world beyond her community, and open and inquisitive at school. This is an idealistic number. She is probably developing strong convictions about the environment, animal rights, or poverty. She will definitely experience a full range of emotions, and for some that can impact their schooling as they get caught up in “drama” with their friends. It’s the end of the cycle and with a growing sense of change on the horizon, she may feel apprehensive.

If you would like to know more about your child’s numbers as they apply to family dynamics, social life and school performance, I would love to talk to you. Please feel free to call 403-667-8932 or e-mail