Navigating the Space Between Stories

At any given time, you or someone you know is in the “space between stories” – soul searching, evaluating current circumstances, initiating and responding to change, and/or reflecting on how you can make your best contribution going forward.

It may be that you have invited change by enthusiastically initiating a process of letting go; or it may be that everything you thought you knew about yourself, your reality, your place in the Universe, has either been changed or severely challenged.

The space between stories can be an exciting and hopeful place to be, or it can make us feel uprooted and challenge our confidence in our ability to make decisions. It can even make us feel sad or fearful because one story has ended and another has yet to begin. It is truly like being in a tunnel, but there are strategies that will help you make this passage easier and contribute to a better outcome.

1 Be honest with yourself.  Accept responsibility in creating your current situation and the outcome. We don’t always have to love what is, but we do have to acknowledge it.

The point of power is now. The key to power is acceptance. The path to power is integrity.

2 Take care of yourself.  Don’t overlook the basics. Maintain healthy practices such as exercise, rest, and proper nutrition.

3 Laugh, relax and play. When you play and relax you are more open to synchronicities and solutions. As Einstein said: “A problem cannot be solved by the same mind that created it.”

4 Ask for help when appropriate. It’s not a sign of weakness.

5 Remember your “team” of unseen helpers, angels, and guides. Be mindful of their presence in your life and ask them for help.

6 Remain open. There is no such thing as coincidence. Be open to and aware of guidance from within, (gut feelings), and from external sources. The right people, resources, and circumstances are lining up to assist you in emerging from your space between stories.

7 Pick up your pen. Writing is a powerful way to sort through muddled feelings, to gain clarity and manifest desired outcomes. Consider the following writing exercise: Write at least five positive statements that start with the words “What if…” Pay attention to how these statements make you feel. You might even wish to rewrite the same uplifting statements each day, or write new ones that come to mind.

“What if …this turns out to be the best decision I ever made?

“What if … “my health improves”, “I meet the love of my life”, “I have more time and money to travel…”

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” Socrates

How does your birthday affect your response to change?

If you were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, or 28th day of any month, you tend to welcome change and often come up with original, creative new ideas and solutions. You don’t like waiting and you don’t like the space between stories. You want to take action now, and most of all you want to take charge.

If your birthday is on the 2nd or 20th of any month, you provide caring support to others who are in transition; but may find it mentally and emotionally draining to be in transition yourself – especially when what is familiar is leaving your life.  Taking care of details is a strength that serves you well when in a process of change.

If you were born on the 3rd, 12th, or 21st of any month you may feel vulnerable or overwhelmed, and have some difficulty staying grounded and practical.  A lot of people will be there to either support you, or give advice that may or may not be welcome. In the end, your typically optimistic mindset will bring you through to a more than satisfactory outcome.

If you were born on the 4th or 13th of any month, you’re not that fond of surprises. You like to keep your life well organized and predictable, so change may be most unwelcome. As long as you can determine what the incremental steps are and start taking action you will find it easier to adapt.

If your birthday is on the 5th, 14th, or 23rd chances are you’ve encountered many changes and handled a crisis or two along the way. You are adaptable and open-minded. As long as you come to terms with what is and remain honest with yourself, you are likely to land on your feet.

If your birthday is on the 6th, 15th or 24th you handle change with maturity and a strong sense of responsibility. You want to know that others are well cared for, and you will likely play the role of advocate if something seems unfair. Be sure to take care of yourself as well.

If your birthday is on the 7th, 16th, or 25th, you are careful about taking risks and initiating change. You need time to become accustomed to new ideas and circumstances. In a crisis, you are the voice of reason, taking inventory, gathering information, weighing options, and making informed decisions.

If your birthday is on the 8th, 17th, or 26th you are innately skilled at fitting all the puzzle pieces together and seeing the big picture. You are known for fairness and good judgement. When faced with change, and especially in a crisis, others will look to you for leadership.

If you were born on the 9th, 18th, or 27th of any month, change affects you deeply in an emotional and spiritual sense. A natural humanitarian, you have fixed ideas about what will be best for everyone and as long as you can keep your own emotions in balance, you do your best to ensure that the highest good prevails.

If you were born on the 11th or 29th change may be uncomfortable for you and may actually cause a level of anxiety. You are also deeply affected by the energy of those around you and how they are responding to events. However, when you initiate change it is likely to be surprising to everyone including yourself.

If you were born on the 22nd you are sensitive and intuitive yet practical and grounded. You are not daunted by the size of a task. You work well with others, have a clear sense of what needs to be done, and will do whatever is necessary to get things running smoothly.